I feel that way. I haven’t felt the need to be pre-emptively aggressive when I post here because in most communities I post to people don’t tend to jump down your throat if you get 1 thing wrong or say 1 thing they don’t like.
It has made me reflect on what kind of person I was when I was posting more on reddit. It’s also made me feel more ok getting on reddit with my one non-banned account occasionally and making a “fire and forget” comment where I’m not quite as obsessed with getting everything right from the get-go. I will try to wait at least a few days or a week before I check for replies. So if somebody happens to get really aggressive with me, it feels less urgent and like it matters less.
I really like the vibe of Lemmy overall, and I hope we can keep it this way.
AUR tends to work really well for me. There are binary packages for almost every software that I use. Things do go wrong occasionally, but when they do it’s almost always solvable. AUR packages are just scripts, so you can go and fix the problem yourself and then tell the maintainer how you did it.